I know this is going to sound weird maybe off the wall to some of you however its a very touchy subject, in fact its a subject some Pastors have been chastised for even mentioning in the pulpit.The fact that it exist in this particular place is astounding and as out of place as you would imagine.I'm speaking of abuse in the church by members. That's right church folks abusing their spouses male and female. Now you'd think that folks that peofess themselves to be christians which means Christ like would be the last folk to abuse anyone. I've been teaching a class at church on anger management and this subject came up. There are many types of abuse other then physical. here's an example of just one in the church. I happen to know a family from New York where the mother and her four daughters were beaten every Sunday night after by their father/husband who happened to be a Deacon in the church. I had the oppertunity to meet this individual and found him to be very dominant. I'll tell you I was not impressed by his behavior or aggressiveness, I was rather turned off. When I sat and listened to his former wife talk about what she and the kids went through while living in his household, I asked her why didn't she leave him and her answer was I was afraid. This went on for years until one Sunday night it all came to an end, when it came her turn to be whipped she ran out in the back yard and grabed a stick and stretched him out cold. She'd had rnough and couldn't take anymore. She and her girls left him and she was finally able to obtain her divource. Just think no one in the church had any knowledge of this activity, no one. She was being controled and abused all at the sametime. Anytime you work and your husband comes to your job and collects your paycheck an spends it and dares you to say anything about it an all you do is keep working, thats control. This is just one example, wives abuse their husbands too. There is an organization that has been started in Maryland that deals especially with abused husbands, husbands abused by their wives and made to pay child support and fight to see their kids. 

This is sad we've reached a point in our lives where we can no longer respect each other and reason together. I know someone has to lead in a relationship but not be the boss, its together thing not a my thing only. Its a partnership walking as one not two. " How can two walk together except they agree "? How do you feel about this ?